There is change all around us, in fact even within us. And here we are denying it and resisting it and desperately trying to cling on to our comfort zone. No sir! We do not wish for change. It is too much for our fixed concepts, frozen ideas, rusted beliefs and decaying notions.
But then change is the only permanence here. Want it or not it is here to stay. What we are doing is putting our energy at the wrong place. IF we feel that we are not the ones resisting change- do stop and think. What is the reason when we tell our children that certain careers are only good? What are we thinking when we criticize others for their chosen way of life? Why do we struggle when our spouses wish to pursue their personal choices in the selection of friends or when they believe in personal space? Know that we are battling change.
Individually we may not be involved in taking up the cause of the environmental change but we live in our own environment and that keeps on changing too. However, while we watch the environmental change debates while Criticizing the world leaders for turning a blind eye towards the obvious changes threatening our survival, we try to force our two/three decade old beliefs and ideas on our own, much loved new generation. Of course, we always have a strong defense for our rigid behavior, “This is what we did when we were children and it was right.”
Right? Whose right and for whom? ‘Truth’ is also changing its dimensions with time and so is the ‘right’ or ‘appropriate’. It is the relevance that matters most. And apart from the time factor the individuality of each person also changes many definitions.
Unfortunately, our problem is not just with our change. We are averse to the changes in others, we are averse to anything that as much even gives a nudge to our comfort zone. The attitude that anything that is not ‘ours’ is ‘anomaly’, saps all our energy and leaves nothing much to work on our change and our progress. If those wanting to look at life differently are our own flesh and blood we try our best to make them ‘like us’. (Whatever that means) Then when someone else sticks their neck out in spite of all the resistance and achieves something of significance we sigh and put it all on our ‘bad luck’ or on their ‘outrageous rashness’.
But we keep resisting our change and then to protect our ‘rigidity’ we form more rigid beliefs and pull our loved ones into it. Our motto? “Change is risky and uncertain. Be what is, do what is sure and remain ‘ok’. All that is extraordinary is not for us.”
All I can say is- Try it once. Do stick your neck out. Feel the tingling fear of the uncertain. Feel Alive. Live your full potential, Once.